o Study 5 different people you encounter over the course of a week – describe them
o Describe how you have built a relationship with these people and how diversity affects this relationship
o Identify 3 stereotypes you had/have or other have/had
o Create 3 Goals for Improving your Cultural Competency & Encouraging Diversity
o Identify the steps necessary to achieve your goals
Sunday, December 12, 2010
3 Goals for Improving Cultural Competency & Encouraging Diversity
o Study 5 different people you encounter over the course of a week – describe them
o Describe how you have built a relationship with these people and how diversity affects this relationship
o Identify 3 stereotypes you had/have or other have/had
o Create 3 Goals for Improving your Cultural Competency & Encouraging Diversity
o Identify the steps necessary to achieve your goals
o Describe how you have built a relationship with these people and how diversity affects this relationship
o Identify 3 stereotypes you had/have or other have/had
o Create 3 Goals for Improving your Cultural Competency & Encouraging Diversity
o Identify the steps necessary to achieve your goals
People Study and Description
o Study 5 different people you encounter over the course of a week – describe them
o Describe how you have built a relationship with these people and how diversity affects this relationship
o Identify 3 stereotypes you had/have or other have/had
o Create 3 Goals for Improving your Cultural Competency & Encouraging Diversity
o Identify the steps necessary to achieve your goals
o Describe how you have built a relationship with these people and how diversity affects this relationship
o Identify 3 stereotypes you had/have or other have/had
o Create 3 Goals for Improving your Cultural Competency & Encouraging Diversity
o Identify the steps necessary to achieve your goals
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Friday, 9 December, 2010
ransition day. When I woke up this morning, everything went really well for me. I was able to get ready for the day and help get Sol off to the bus in time while being able to leave at early enough to pick up Elan (him and Nara were at their mom's for the past week).
I dropped Elan off at child care and spent twenty minutes in the MCTC library before my positive psychology class at 10:10.
After class I spent another half hour in the library working on my HRTB class (reading and replying to posts).
I had a really great workout at the YMCA. I did about 45 minutes of wieght training and then swam half a mile. I didn't include it in my list of goals for next year, but last week I started my journey towards joining the 100-mile swim club at the YMCA. My goal is to log 100 miles before next Thanksgiving. I might be able to meet a secondary objective by logging 100 miles before the Buffalo Triathlon in early June next year. My swimming is improving greatly and so is my confidence.
After working out, I went to my pop-culture class.
My pop-culture power point presentation is due two weeks from today. The subject we're covering is "Heroes" and what they represent in our culture. My power point is going to focus on the opposite of heroes- Villains.
After class I picked Elan up from child care. He was in a great mood. I'm still very happy with his preschool/daycare (Children's Village Montessori). The staff and other children get along with him so well.
After picking Nara up from her bus stop downtown, we headed home.
When we got home, Jessica had dinner ready and waiting at the table.
We sat as a family (Jessica, Sol, Nara, Elan and I) and enjoyed vegan Sheppard's pie and veggie chicken steaks with vegetables.
We then played together as a family (marble madness and wooden trains)for about an hour before watching a family movie. It was an atypical, yet wonderful evening. I can't expect that we'll always have dinner together, and play together, but it's fun to do it when we can.
I dropped Elan off at child care and spent twenty minutes in the MCTC library before my positive psychology class at 10:10.
After class I spent another half hour in the library working on my HRTB class (reading and replying to posts).
I had a really great workout at the YMCA. I did about 45 minutes of wieght training and then swam half a mile. I didn't include it in my list of goals for next year, but last week I started my journey towards joining the 100-mile swim club at the YMCA. My goal is to log 100 miles before next Thanksgiving. I might be able to meet a secondary objective by logging 100 miles before the Buffalo Triathlon in early June next year. My swimming is improving greatly and so is my confidence.
After working out, I went to my pop-culture class.
My pop-culture power point presentation is due two weeks from today. The subject we're covering is "Heroes" and what they represent in our culture. My power point is going to focus on the opposite of heroes- Villains.
After class I picked Elan up from child care. He was in a great mood. I'm still very happy with his preschool/daycare (Children's Village Montessori). The staff and other children get along with him so well.
After picking Nara up from her bus stop downtown, we headed home.
When we got home, Jessica had dinner ready and waiting at the table.
We sat as a family (Jessica, Sol, Nara, Elan and I) and enjoyed vegan Sheppard's pie and veggie chicken steaks with vegetables.
We then played together as a family (marble madness and wooden trains)for about an hour before watching a family movie. It was an atypical, yet wonderful evening. I can't expect that we'll always have dinner together, and play together, but it's fun to do it when we can.
Wednesday, 8 December, 2010
This morning I helped Sol get breakfast and ready for school.
Jessica started her first day at work after a 13-week leave of absence (for back-surgery) yesterday. Today was day two back for her. She was able to get out of the house before Sol left for the bus.
After Sol caught the bus on time, I cleaned up a little around the house and went to school.
I spent a couple of hours in the MCTC Library studying for my Posi-Psyche test on Monday.
I also spent some time reviewing for the quiz in HRTB that is due before Sunday night.
I was able to receive my grant money remaining from this semester at the Financial Services Office a couple of days ago. Because my award letter finally came, I was also able to officially apply for a student loan to help me get through the next semester and a half. My unemployment is running out and I've had no success at finding a job as of yet.
I went to Pop-Culture Class today, but had to leave 45 minutes early so I could be sure I was home when Sol got home and off the bus. (He didn't have a PCA lined up for today, so I spent the afternoon with him).
It was a great afternoon spending time with Sol. He voluntarily did all of his homework (Math and Grammar/Spelling) and even wanted to do Math flashcards with me for fun!
He and I then went on the computer and joined a Fantasy Basketball League together. He's been showing an interest in fantasy sports, and I thought it would be a good experience for us to join a free league together. I plan on focusing on the "fun" aspect of fantasy sports, as well as helping him understand the importance of having fun over winning or losing. (It's not about winning or losing, it's how you play the game... and ultimately, are you having fun?)
He was on the computer longer than he probably should have been because when it was time to get ready for bed, he acted out a little bit and had a low-level fit.
He did fine getting over it, and took his meds while watching a movie with Jessica and I before going to bed.
Jessica started her first day at work after a 13-week leave of absence (for back-surgery) yesterday. Today was day two back for her. She was able to get out of the house before Sol left for the bus.
After Sol caught the bus on time, I cleaned up a little around the house and went to school.
I spent a couple of hours in the MCTC Library studying for my Posi-Psyche test on Monday.
I also spent some time reviewing for the quiz in HRTB that is due before Sunday night.
I was able to receive my grant money remaining from this semester at the Financial Services Office a couple of days ago. Because my award letter finally came, I was also able to officially apply for a student loan to help me get through the next semester and a half. My unemployment is running out and I've had no success at finding a job as of yet.
I went to Pop-Culture Class today, but had to leave 45 minutes early so I could be sure I was home when Sol got home and off the bus. (He didn't have a PCA lined up for today, so I spent the afternoon with him).
It was a great afternoon spending time with Sol. He voluntarily did all of his homework (Math and Grammar/Spelling) and even wanted to do Math flashcards with me for fun!
He and I then went on the computer and joined a Fantasy Basketball League together. He's been showing an interest in fantasy sports, and I thought it would be a good experience for us to join a free league together. I plan on focusing on the "fun" aspect of fantasy sports, as well as helping him understand the importance of having fun over winning or losing. (It's not about winning or losing, it's how you play the game... and ultimately, are you having fun?)
He was on the computer longer than he probably should have been because when it was time to get ready for bed, he acted out a little bit and had a low-level fit.
He did fine getting over it, and took his meds while watching a movie with Jessica and I before going to bed.
Tuesday, 7 December, 2010
I didn't sleep very well again. I kept anticipating Elan waking up, but he didn't until 6:30.
I fed the kids breakfast and helped them get ready for school. When Sol left for his bus, I brought Elan to preschool and Nara to her bus stop. We were a few minutes late to Nara's stop, but luckily, the bus driver waited for her. I am going to make a point to be earlier for Nara's pick up for the remainder of this week.
I went to the MCTC Library and spent the next few hours finishing up a working draft for my American Radicalism Essay which is due tomorrow. I feel like it is almost complete. It could use a bit of editing, but I plan on taking some time from it for readability's sake.
After class I spent time in the computer lab touching up my mid-term AmRad Essay and following up with my English 1111 assignments due before Friday's class.
I checked in about my financial aid on-line and found out I have officially qualified. My award letter is still pending, but I should have it by next week!
My next step is to apply for a child-care grant and appropriate student loans to help me finance the final semesters in my journey towards a two-year degree.
I picked up Elan from preschool before picking up Nara from her bus stop and going home.
We had spaghetti for dinner and Nara did homework while Sol, Elan and I played catch and tag outside for the evening.
The struggle between Sol and I this evening centered around trying to convince him to do homework. We made an agreement, but he didn't follow through with his end of the bargain after we finished playing outside.
I was feeling disappointed, but made it clear to Sol that even though I don't like his choice, I still love him. My disappointment doesn't mean my disapproval of him as a person.
I fed the kids breakfast and helped them get ready for school. When Sol left for his bus, I brought Elan to preschool and Nara to her bus stop. We were a few minutes late to Nara's stop, but luckily, the bus driver waited for her. I am going to make a point to be earlier for Nara's pick up for the remainder of this week.
I went to the MCTC Library and spent the next few hours finishing up a working draft for my American Radicalism Essay which is due tomorrow. I feel like it is almost complete. It could use a bit of editing, but I plan on taking some time from it for readability's sake.
After class I spent time in the computer lab touching up my mid-term AmRad Essay and following up with my English 1111 assignments due before Friday's class.
I checked in about my financial aid on-line and found out I have officially qualified. My award letter is still pending, but I should have it by next week!
My next step is to apply for a child-care grant and appropriate student loans to help me finance the final semesters in my journey towards a two-year degree.
I picked up Elan from preschool before picking up Nara from her bus stop and going home.
We had spaghetti for dinner and Nara did homework while Sol, Elan and I played catch and tag outside for the evening.
The struggle between Sol and I this evening centered around trying to convince him to do homework. We made an agreement, but he didn't follow through with his end of the bargain after we finished playing outside.
I was feeling disappointed, but made it clear to Sol that even though I don't like his choice, I still love him. My disappointment doesn't mean my disapproval of him as a person.
Sunday, 5 December, 2010
Elan woke me up at 7am. Sol and Nara got out of bed around 9:30am. Jessica slept in all morning (she needed the rest because she’s still recovering from her back surgery a couple of weeks ago). I fed the kids cereal for breakfast. Elan watched Star Wars, while Sol, Nara and I continued our Axis and Allies board game (we started a game yesterday. Sol and Nara are playing as the Allied countries Russia, UK and USA, while I play for Germany and Japan). After a half an hour, my parents stopped by the house and picked up Elan and Nara. Nara and Elan spent the day with their grandparents (Sol is my step-son, so he’s not as close with my parents as my other two kids are at this point in our lives).
Sol and I continued to play Axis and Allies for a couple of hours. We ended because of a tantrum (not uncommon, and often a multiple times a day occurrence). I was more proud of how long he went playing the game without having a tantrum. He has an incredibly difficult time overcoming disappointment.
I turned on the Vikings game and spent the next few hours cleaning the house (vacuuming, sweeping, scrubbing the floor, washing dishes and other chores).
For the remaining afternoon/evening, Sol seemed to be having a difficult day all of Jessica and I’s interactions were met with hostility. Any time he found a way to calm down, his attitude escalated quickly and with almost no incident or cause. Communicating was very difficult today with Sol.
I went to my parents to pick up Nara and Elan around 8:15pm. Elan fell asleep in the car seat because he was exhausted from spending a fun afternoon/evening at Grandma and Grandpa’s house without a nap. Nara called our friend Emily (she’s the equivalent of her “goddess” Mother, but lives way up north in Shevlin, MN). They had a good, long conversation which lasted until Nara’s bedtime. I was thankful that Nara was feeling better, recovering from strep throat. I was also thankful that her phone call distracted her from the chaos of some more of Sol’s behavioral breakdowns. It was a tough night for Sol and for me. Jessica tucked him in (I usually do at bedtime). Today was a tough day for both of us, but I’m confident that my relationship with Sol only gets stronger after tough days like today.
Sol and I continued to play Axis and Allies for a couple of hours. We ended because of a tantrum (not uncommon, and often a multiple times a day occurrence). I was more proud of how long he went playing the game without having a tantrum. He has an incredibly difficult time overcoming disappointment.
I turned on the Vikings game and spent the next few hours cleaning the house (vacuuming, sweeping, scrubbing the floor, washing dishes and other chores).
For the remaining afternoon/evening, Sol seemed to be having a difficult day all of Jessica and I’s interactions were met with hostility. Any time he found a way to calm down, his attitude escalated quickly and with almost no incident or cause. Communicating was very difficult today with Sol.
I went to my parents to pick up Nara and Elan around 8:15pm. Elan fell asleep in the car seat because he was exhausted from spending a fun afternoon/evening at Grandma and Grandpa’s house without a nap. Nara called our friend Emily (she’s the equivalent of her “goddess” Mother, but lives way up north in Shevlin, MN). They had a good, long conversation which lasted until Nara’s bedtime. I was thankful that Nara was feeling better, recovering from strep throat. I was also thankful that her phone call distracted her from the chaos of some more of Sol’s behavioral breakdowns. It was a tough night for Sol and for me. Jessica tucked him in (I usually do at bedtime). Today was a tough day for both of us, but I’m confident that my relationship with Sol only gets stronger after tough days like today.
Tuesday, 30 November, 2010
Jessica and I both woke up this morning to get the kids fed and ready for school. Jessica is still recovering from her back surgery (2 weeks ago from today).
Sol caught the bus on time (he attends the elementary school near our house in New Hope), I dropped Nara off at her downtown Minneapolis bus stop on time for her pick-up at 9:15 (She attends Southside Family Charter School in Minneapolis. Her school doesn’t have access to busing in the suburbs, so I have a bus pick her up near MCTC every day). Elan stayed home with Jessica, but was picked up by my sister for the day around 9:30am.
I spent about an hour writing and editing my essay quiz that was due in American Radicalism 1000.
I spent my class period learning about the Suffrage Movement in the early and Mid-19th Century.
After class I read some more background information for my English paper while eating a lunch that I brought to school.
I spent the next couple of hours in the MCTC Library working on Human Relations Team Building Business class. I read some more excerpts from chapters 1 and 2 in Effective Human Relations by Reece and Brandt.
Next I went to the student financial aid office to verify that my award letter was still pending and to inquire on a more specific date. There was no verification as to when my award letter would be received. Probably either this upcoming Thursday (23 September) or next Thursday (30 September).
After that I went to the YMCA in Downtown Minneapolis and jogged for 20 minutes (approximately 2.4 miles) and swam 8 laps.
My sister dropped Elan off at home and Jessica watched spent the afternoon with him.
I picked up Nara at her bus stop in Minneapoils at 5:45pm and we went home for dinner.
We ate dinner and I helped Nara and Sol with their homework.
Elan, Nara and Sol went to bed at about 9:20pm.
I took the garbage out before going to bed around 10pm.
Sol caught the bus on time (he attends the elementary school near our house in New Hope), I dropped Nara off at her downtown Minneapolis bus stop on time for her pick-up at 9:15 (She attends Southside Family Charter School in Minneapolis. Her school doesn’t have access to busing in the suburbs, so I have a bus pick her up near MCTC every day). Elan stayed home with Jessica, but was picked up by my sister for the day around 9:30am.
I spent about an hour writing and editing my essay quiz that was due in American Radicalism 1000.
I spent my class period learning about the Suffrage Movement in the early and Mid-19th Century.
After class I read some more background information for my English paper while eating a lunch that I brought to school.
I spent the next couple of hours in the MCTC Library working on Human Relations Team Building Business class. I read some more excerpts from chapters 1 and 2 in Effective Human Relations by Reece and Brandt.
Next I went to the student financial aid office to verify that my award letter was still pending and to inquire on a more specific date. There was no verification as to when my award letter would be received. Probably either this upcoming Thursday (23 September) or next Thursday (30 September).
After that I went to the YMCA in Downtown Minneapolis and jogged for 20 minutes (approximately 2.4 miles) and swam 8 laps.
My sister dropped Elan off at home and Jessica watched spent the afternoon with him.
I picked up Nara at her bus stop in Minneapoils at 5:45pm and we went home for dinner.
We ate dinner and I helped Nara and Sol with their homework.
Elan, Nara and Sol went to bed at about 9:20pm.
I took the garbage out before going to bed around 10pm.
Sunday, November 28, 2010
3 Goals for Growth/ Steps to Achieve these goals
3 goals for growth:
1. More communication with Ex-Wife.
Step 1- Break our cycle of inconsistent communication. Step 2- Be more assertive in her presence. Stop selling myself short. Step 3- Remember that the kids are our priority and that we BOTH will do whatever it takes to be a good parent.
2. Continue Consistent Positive Reinforcement in interactions with Sol
Step 1- Always check in after a tantrum, argument or fight and remind him that I love him. Step 2- Point out the good things he does on a daily basis and share with him the pride I feel when I see him doing those things. Step 3- Encourage him with courtesies. Modeling behavior is "contagious," as our book says...
3. Continue with Encouragement and Positive Role Modeling for Nara
Step 1- Point out how she makes me proud and surprises me with her knowledge on a daily basis (on days she's with me). Step 2- Point out positive things in public that portray successful women. Step 3- Continue including people in our every day lives who encourage her, inspire her, and people who she can look up to as she grows and learns.
1. More communication with Ex-Wife.
Step 1- Break our cycle of inconsistent communication. Step 2- Be more assertive in her presence. Stop selling myself short. Step 3- Remember that the kids are our priority and that we BOTH will do whatever it takes to be a good parent.
2. Continue Consistent Positive Reinforcement in interactions with Sol
Step 1- Always check in after a tantrum, argument or fight and remind him that I love him. Step 2- Point out the good things he does on a daily basis and share with him the pride I feel when I see him doing those things. Step 3- Encourage him with courtesies. Modeling behavior is "contagious," as our book says...
3. Continue with Encouragement and Positive Role Modeling for Nara
Step 1- Point out how she makes me proud and surprises me with her knowledge on a daily basis (on days she's with me). Step 2- Point out positive things in public that portray successful women. Step 3- Continue including people in our every day lives who encourage her, inspire her, and people who she can look up to as she grows and learns.
3 Good/ 3 Bad
3 Positive Interactions:
1. Monday, November 15th- When it was time to wake up, he was hesitant and slow. It took some encouragement to convince him to get up, dress himself and get ready for school before I left for the day.
2. Monday, November 15th- When I picked up Elan from his mothers (Transition day) and dropped him off at his pre-school, he spent a lot of time whining. It was hard because I missed him (during week when he was at his mom's). I was able to calm him down, and redirect his attitude to happiness through active listening and acknowledging his discomforts/worries for the morning... Ultimately, it was just early and he was tired during transition day.
3.Tuesday, November 16th- Nara was very helpful when getting ready for school this morning. She went out of her way to keep Elan on task while eating breakfast so I could get myself and Sol ready before he caught his early morning bus.
3 Not-So-Positive Interactions
1. Tuesday, November 16th- Jessica (my partner) and I did very little communicating. She seemed distant and upset and I generally avoided her for the evening instead of making time to understand what was wrong.
2. Thursday, November 18th- Sol was upset about his seating arrangement at breakfast. I was impatient and basically left him for Jessica to deal with. Not so productive, or positive.
3. Monday, November 22nd- When I dropped the kids off (transition day) with their mom, I avoided eye contact, and hurried away (on bad mornings, I cannot communicate with her at all.) My fear of confrontation with her in front of the children is astronomically higher than I wish it were.
1. Monday, November 15th- When it was time to wake up, he was hesitant and slow. It took some encouragement to convince him to get up, dress himself and get ready for school before I left for the day.
2. Monday, November 15th- When I picked up Elan from his mothers (Transition day) and dropped him off at his pre-school, he spent a lot of time whining. It was hard because I missed him (during week when he was at his mom's). I was able to calm him down, and redirect his attitude to happiness through active listening and acknowledging his discomforts/worries for the morning... Ultimately, it was just early and he was tired during transition day.
3.Tuesday, November 16th- Nara was very helpful when getting ready for school this morning. She went out of her way to keep Elan on task while eating breakfast so I could get myself and Sol ready before he caught his early morning bus.
3 Not-So-Positive Interactions
1. Tuesday, November 16th- Jessica (my partner) and I did very little communicating. She seemed distant and upset and I generally avoided her for the evening instead of making time to understand what was wrong.
2. Thursday, November 18th- Sol was upset about his seating arrangement at breakfast. I was impatient and basically left him for Jessica to deal with. Not so productive, or positive.
3. Monday, November 22nd- When I dropped the kids off (transition day) with their mom, I avoided eye contact, and hurried away (on bad mornings, I cannot communicate with her at all.) My fear of confrontation with her in front of the children is astronomically higher than I wish it were.
Analysis in relation to Chapter 10
o Analyze these interactions in relation to the learning in Chapter 10
Positive Reinforcement through praise has always been more immediately effective when working with Sol than Negative Reinforcement/punishment.
When overcoming difficulties in our communications and relationship, active listening has been integral.
Positive reinforcement has also been my focus when communicating and acting as an adult role model for all of my children.
Positive Reinforcement through praise has always been more immediately effective when working with Sol than Negative Reinforcement/punishment.
When overcoming difficulties in our communications and relationship, active listening has been integral.
Positive reinforcement has also been my focus when communicating and acting as an adult role model for all of my children.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
I got up earlier than the kids and got things in order for my day at school.
I woke up Nara, Elan and eventually Sol.
Sol took his time getting up, but was able to get dressed, eat and be ready for the bus when it arrived.
I drove Elan to preschool before dropping Nara of at her bus stop Downtown (YMCA Bus Stop 9th and Hennepin) at 9:20am.
I spent the morning studying in the MCTC Library before my American Radicalism class at 11:15.
After class I had lunch and then went back to the library.
I spent the next couple of hours working on my American Radicalism mid-term essay that is due in two days.
I also spent some time reading chapters in my textbooks for BUSN HRTB and Posi-Psyche.
Next I went to the YMCA to spend 25 minutes jogging and then working on my swimming mechanics. I swam 7 laps practicing my kicks and focusing on my posture and stroke.
It was a good workout.
I picked up Elan from preschool. He was unusually whiney and emotional today. He spent pretty much the entirety of the car ride from preschool, to Nara's bus stop and then home crying. It was a long hour.
Jessica had vegan sloppy joe's and french fries ready for dinner and we all ate together as a family.
After dinner, the entire family went to the near by park. Sol and I played catch with the football for about a half an hour. Nara made friends with a little girl at the park and Jessica pushed Elan in the swing. Before leaving, Nara, Sol and I made obstacle courses and timed our efforts.
When we got home, Nara did homework before brushing her teeth, getting her pj's on and going to bed around 9:30.
I got Elan ready for bed and read two story books to him before he fell asleep at 9pm.
Sol got himself ready for bed and I tucked him in around the same time as Elan.
I woke up Nara, Elan and eventually Sol.
Sol took his time getting up, but was able to get dressed, eat and be ready for the bus when it arrived.
I drove Elan to preschool before dropping Nara of at her bus stop Downtown (YMCA Bus Stop 9th and Hennepin) at 9:20am.
I spent the morning studying in the MCTC Library before my American Radicalism class at 11:15.
After class I had lunch and then went back to the library.
I spent the next couple of hours working on my American Radicalism mid-term essay that is due in two days.
I also spent some time reading chapters in my textbooks for BUSN HRTB and Posi-Psyche.
Next I went to the YMCA to spend 25 minutes jogging and then working on my swimming mechanics. I swam 7 laps practicing my kicks and focusing on my posture and stroke.
It was a good workout.
I picked up Elan from preschool. He was unusually whiney and emotional today. He spent pretty much the entirety of the car ride from preschool, to Nara's bus stop and then home crying. It was a long hour.
Jessica had vegan sloppy joe's and french fries ready for dinner and we all ate together as a family.
After dinner, the entire family went to the near by park. Sol and I played catch with the football for about a half an hour. Nara made friends with a little girl at the park and Jessica pushed Elan in the swing. Before leaving, Nara, Sol and I made obstacle courses and timed our efforts.
When we got home, Nara did homework before brushing her teeth, getting her pj's on and going to bed around 9:30.
I got Elan ready for bed and read two story books to him before he fell asleep at 9pm.
Sol got himself ready for bed and I tucked him in around the same time as Elan.
Monday, November 22, 2010
I woke up and helped get Sol out of the bed and ready for school. Before I left the house, I made up a schedule of things for Sol to do when he gets home.
I picked up Elan from his mom's house and got him to preschool (Children's Village Montessori in SE Minneapolis) before my 10am Positive Psychology class.
After class I studied in the MCTC library. I still don't have my textbook for Human Relations or my Positive Psychology classes. I have luckily been able to spend a lot of time using the library resources effectively.
My Award Letter status was still unavailable when I checked on the MCTC website. I'm expecting some word from Financial Aid this week.
After the library, I went to the YMCA and did a work out. I lifted weights, worked on stretching and did some core work.
After my workout I picked up Nara at her bus stop and Elan from preschool. We brought home some Little Ceasar's Pizza for dinner.
Sol and Nara spent almost an hour doing homework.
I gave Elan his bath. Nara took a shower. Sol had a difficult time because Jessica and I wanted him to take a shower. It took about an hour for him to finally agree to take a shower. He showed escalated signs of frustration and anger, but for the most part he did really well. I think I had a slight affect in his behavior because I checked in with him on a couple of occasions when he was pouting and showing signs of hostility.
I shared with him some things I do to help me overcome feelings of disappointment and what helps me when I'm feeling overwhelmed. It didn't have an immediate impact, but I think it partially accounts for his ability to calm down and finally take his shower later on.
Elan woke up multiple times and wanted attention. Each time I carried him back to his bed and made sure he slept in his own bed (Not something he's used to when he's at his mom's house. He co-sleeps with his sister or mom when he's at her house.)
I picked up Elan from his mom's house and got him to preschool (Children's Village Montessori in SE Minneapolis) before my 10am Positive Psychology class.
After class I studied in the MCTC library. I still don't have my textbook for Human Relations or my Positive Psychology classes. I have luckily been able to spend a lot of time using the library resources effectively.
My Award Letter status was still unavailable when I checked on the MCTC website. I'm expecting some word from Financial Aid this week.
After the library, I went to the YMCA and did a work out. I lifted weights, worked on stretching and did some core work.
After my workout I picked up Nara at her bus stop and Elan from preschool. We brought home some Little Ceasar's Pizza for dinner.
Sol and Nara spent almost an hour doing homework.
I gave Elan his bath. Nara took a shower. Sol had a difficult time because Jessica and I wanted him to take a shower. It took about an hour for him to finally agree to take a shower. He showed escalated signs of frustration and anger, but for the most part he did really well. I think I had a slight affect in his behavior because I checked in with him on a couple of occasions when he was pouting and showing signs of hostility.
I shared with him some things I do to help me overcome feelings of disappointment and what helps me when I'm feeling overwhelmed. It didn't have an immediate impact, but I think it partially accounts for his ability to calm down and finally take his shower later on.
Elan woke up multiple times and wanted attention. Each time I carried him back to his bed and made sure he slept in his own bed (Not something he's used to when he's at his mom's house. He co-sleeps with his sister or mom when he's at her house.)
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Sol was very difficult today getting out of bed. When he finally did get out of bed, he was very reluctant to take his morning medications. At one point I told him that his "attitude has to change, and it has to change starting right now!"
He replied with, "You have anger issues!"
From there we were able to communicate more calmly. I was able to explain to him why I was angry and what he does that makes me happy. He was open to communicating with me about what he was angry about as well. His bus came sooner, rather than later, and he wasn't totally ready for school, but was able to get on the bus and eat most of his cereal for breakfast.
When thinking back on his statement about my "anger issues," its hard not to laugh a little bit. It's hard not to take seriously such a statement from someone who acts out in anger on a daily basis and expects everything to be good and fine at the drop of a hat. But that doesn't mean there isn't any truth to it. I'm glad that him and I are able to point out to each other honestly and truthfully what we see/feel is fair or not fair when communicating. I'm so thankful that even when we do criticize each other, we both have the ability to keep trying and working to communicate better.
I went to school and worked on some American Radicalism homework. In the library, I did the HRTB Chapter 3/4Quiz and submitted my Team Mid-Term Review.
After American Radicalism, I ate lunch and had an appointment with my therapist. (I've been in therapy for over two years to help me through my separation, divorce, custody battle and unemployment. It started off as a weekly thing, but for the past eight or nine months, I've been seeing my therapist less frequently- about every six-eight weeks). My session was very helpful (as usual) and I set up a follow up appointment for December 9th. It will probably be my final session.
I spent the next couple of hours commuting home and picking up odds and ends needed around the house (Walgreens, Target, two different hardware stores.)
When I got home, Sol had shown signs of having a good day with his PCA. They (for the first time since Jessica and I have tried implementing this) actually wrote down his scheduled activities for the day and completed them (It's something that the directory from the company that provides Sol's PCAs suggested we start doing with Sol on a daily basis to encourage and practice doing activities that are both fun and healthy on a consistent/daily basis.)
Sol and I spent a part of the evening drafting our fantasy basketball teams together. He has a team and I have a team. I haven't followed NBA basketball very closely for over five years, so it'll be interesting to see how either of us do. It is Sol's first Fantasy League. He's been expressing interest in Fantasy Football, but it's too late to sign up for any leagues. I thought it would be cool for us to join a basketball league together because he likes basketball a lot (His uncles play a lot of basketball still). My goal while playing with Sol is to teach him the "in's and out's" of fantasy sports, but also to focus on playing for fun. Each week he'll either win a game or lose a game, and it will be a good opportunity for him to learn how to win and lose with class..... It's an extension of the "good sportsmanship" I tried focusing on when he played team baseball over the past summer.
He replied with, "You have anger issues!"
From there we were able to communicate more calmly. I was able to explain to him why I was angry and what he does that makes me happy. He was open to communicating with me about what he was angry about as well. His bus came sooner, rather than later, and he wasn't totally ready for school, but was able to get on the bus and eat most of his cereal for breakfast.
When thinking back on his statement about my "anger issues," its hard not to laugh a little bit. It's hard not to take seriously such a statement from someone who acts out in anger on a daily basis and expects everything to be good and fine at the drop of a hat. But that doesn't mean there isn't any truth to it. I'm glad that him and I are able to point out to each other honestly and truthfully what we see/feel is fair or not fair when communicating. I'm so thankful that even when we do criticize each other, we both have the ability to keep trying and working to communicate better.
I went to school and worked on some American Radicalism homework. In the library, I did the HRTB Chapter 3/4Quiz and submitted my Team Mid-Term Review.
After American Radicalism, I ate lunch and had an appointment with my therapist. (I've been in therapy for over two years to help me through my separation, divorce, custody battle and unemployment. It started off as a weekly thing, but for the past eight or nine months, I've been seeing my therapist less frequently- about every six-eight weeks). My session was very helpful (as usual) and I set up a follow up appointment for December 9th. It will probably be my final session.
I spent the next couple of hours commuting home and picking up odds and ends needed around the house (Walgreens, Target, two different hardware stores.)
When I got home, Sol had shown signs of having a good day with his PCA. They (for the first time since Jessica and I have tried implementing this) actually wrote down his scheduled activities for the day and completed them (It's something that the directory from the company that provides Sol's PCAs suggested we start doing with Sol on a daily basis to encourage and practice doing activities that are both fun and healthy on a consistent/daily basis.)
Sol and I spent a part of the evening drafting our fantasy basketball teams together. He has a team and I have a team. I haven't followed NBA basketball very closely for over five years, so it'll be interesting to see how either of us do. It is Sol's first Fantasy League. He's been expressing interest in Fantasy Football, but it's too late to sign up for any leagues. I thought it would be cool for us to join a basketball league together because he likes basketball a lot (His uncles play a lot of basketball still). My goal while playing with Sol is to teach him the "in's and out's" of fantasy sports, but also to focus on playing for fun. Each week he'll either win a game or lose a game, and it will be a good opportunity for him to learn how to win and lose with class..... It's an extension of the "good sportsmanship" I tried focusing on when he played team baseball over the past summer.
Tuesday, November 16th, 2010
This morning was a good morning again.
Sol caught his bus on time and woke up without any hassels. Nara and Elan ate and got ready for school just as easily.
I dropped Nara off at her bus stop and then Elan at his preschool.
At school I spent about an hour and a half reading further into a topic that we were going to cover in small groups in my American Radicalism class. I found some good library books about the Columbia Student Rebellion of 1968 and used them as sources for my small group homework assignment.
American Radicalism was very interesting today. Sometimes I go to that class and feel bored (lecturing), but today my instructor was very intriguing.
After class I went to the YMCA to do a 45 minute bike work out and quarter mile swim.
I had lunch and spent the rest of the afternoon in the MCTC Library studying posi psych, English 2, and HRTB.
My daughter had a
Sol caught his bus on time and woke up without any hassels. Nara and Elan ate and got ready for school just as easily.
I dropped Nara off at her bus stop and then Elan at his preschool.
At school I spent about an hour and a half reading further into a topic that we were going to cover in small groups in my American Radicalism class. I found some good library books about the Columbia Student Rebellion of 1968 and used them as sources for my small group homework assignment.
American Radicalism was very interesting today. Sometimes I go to that class and feel bored (lecturing), but today my instructor was very intriguing.
After class I went to the YMCA to do a 45 minute bike work out and quarter mile swim.
I had lunch and spent the rest of the afternoon in the MCTC Library studying posi psych, English 2, and HRTB.
My daughter had a
Monday, November 15, 2010
Transition day. When I woke up this morning, everything went really well for me. I was able to get ready for the day and help get Sol off to the bus in time while being able to leave at early enough to pick up Elan (him and Nara were at their mom's for the past week).
I dropped Elan off at child care and spent twenty minutes in the MCTC library before my positive psychology class at 10:10.
After class I spent another half hour in the library working on my HRTB class (reading and replying to posts).
I had a really great workout at the YMCA. I did about 45 minutes of wieght training and then swam half a mile. I didn't include it in my list of goals for next year, but last week I started my journey towards joining the 100-mile swim club at the YMCA. My goal is to log 100 miles before next Thanksgiving. I might be able to meet a secondary objective by logging 100 miles before the Buffalo Triathlon in early June next year. My swimming is improving greatly and so is my confidence.
After working out, I went to my pop-culture class.
My pop-culture power point presentation is due two weeks from today. The subject we're covering is "Heroes" and what they represent in our culture. My power point is going to focus on the opposite of heroes- Villains.
After class I picked Elan up from child care. He was in a great mood. I'm still very happy with his preschool/daycare (Children's Village Montessori). The staff and other children get along with him so well.
After picking Nara up from her bus stop downtown, we headed home.
When we got home, Jessica had dinner ready and waiting at the table.
We sat as a family (Jessica, Sol, Nara, Elan and I) and enjoyed vegan Sheppard's pie and veggie chicken steaks with vegetables.
We then played together as a family (marble madness and wooden trains)for about an hour before watching a family movie. It was an atypical, yet wonderful evening. I can't expect that we'll always have dinner together, and play together, but it's fun to do it when we can.
I dropped Elan off at child care and spent twenty minutes in the MCTC library before my positive psychology class at 10:10.
After class I spent another half hour in the library working on my HRTB class (reading and replying to posts).
I had a really great workout at the YMCA. I did about 45 minutes of wieght training and then swam half a mile. I didn't include it in my list of goals for next year, but last week I started my journey towards joining the 100-mile swim club at the YMCA. My goal is to log 100 miles before next Thanksgiving. I might be able to meet a secondary objective by logging 100 miles before the Buffalo Triathlon in early June next year. My swimming is improving greatly and so is my confidence.
After working out, I went to my pop-culture class.
My pop-culture power point presentation is due two weeks from today. The subject we're covering is "Heroes" and what they represent in our culture. My power point is going to focus on the opposite of heroes- Villains.
After class I picked Elan up from child care. He was in a great mood. I'm still very happy with his preschool/daycare (Children's Village Montessori). The staff and other children get along with him so well.
After picking Nara up from her bus stop downtown, we headed home.
When we got home, Jessica had dinner ready and waiting at the table.
We sat as a family (Jessica, Sol, Nara, Elan and I) and enjoyed vegan Sheppard's pie and veggie chicken steaks with vegetables.
We then played together as a family (marble madness and wooden trains)for about an hour before watching a family movie. It was an atypical, yet wonderful evening. I can't expect that we'll always have dinner together, and play together, but it's fun to do it when we can.
Sunday, November 7, 2010
New Goals for Next Year and Steps to Achieve these Goals
1. Find a better transportation situation for Nara's school bus arrangements during the weeks she is at my house.
- It is going to be more of a hardship to continue driving to downtown Minneapolis next semester because I won't have a class everyday of the week as I do this semester. I will contact local day cares to see if there are any transportation opportunities/ideas that can help overcome my commute.
2. Graduate with honors at MCTC.
- For almost two years I have taken every step necessary to complete my two year degree in two years. Continue with the plan, and continue with my commitment to an "A" attitude so I can graduate with honors.
3. I will take a vacation with our newly "blended" family.
- I spend a lot of time with the kids at home, but it would be a fun change of pace to do something as a family. Blending Jessica and my family together takes time and comitment. A first family vacation could be really positive for everyone.
- It is going to be more of a hardship to continue driving to downtown Minneapolis next semester because I won't have a class everyday of the week as I do this semester. I will contact local day cares to see if there are any transportation opportunities/ideas that can help overcome my commute.
2. Graduate with honors at MCTC.
- For almost two years I have taken every step necessary to complete my two year degree in two years. Continue with the plan, and continue with my commitment to an "A" attitude so I can graduate with honors.
3. I will take a vacation with our newly "blended" family.
- I spend a lot of time with the kids at home, but it would be a fun change of pace to do something as a family. Blending Jessica and my family together takes time and comitment. A first family vacation could be really positive for everyone.
Self Motivating Strategies for unaccomplished Goals
1. Spend time this week looking up all five grades in the classes I am taking for fall semester.
2. Search two new job web sites. It will help change the "air" of negativity I feel in this abysmal job market.
3. Find volunteer opportunities through MCTC. Look into the tutoring program. Contact the Honor Society for other opportunities.
2. Search two new job web sites. It will help change the "air" of negativity I feel in this abysmal job market.
3. Find volunteer opportunities through MCTC. Look into the tutoring program. Contact the Honor Society for other opportunities.
Goals Yet to be accomplished
1. Get all A's in every class.
2. Find a good job opportunity.
3. Volunteer.
2. Find a good job opportunity.
3. Volunteer.
Wednesday, October 24, 2010
Class went by pretty quickly. After class I spent the next few hours in the MCTC Library working on my HRTB 1155 discussion and readings for the week. I also continued researching my English 1111 topic for an essay that is due (rough draft) this upcoming Friday.
I was also able to check in with Financial Aid to verify progress on my studentloan. It sounds like I should be receiving my check two weeks from today.
I filed for unemployment (via internet) before leaving school.
I spent the evening running errands and looking for shoes, costumes and ingredients for dinner this evening.
I was also able to check in with Financial Aid to verify progress on my studentloan. It sounds like I should be receiving my check two weeks from today.
I filed for unemployment (via internet) before leaving school.
I spent the evening running errands and looking for shoes, costumes and ingredients for dinner this evening.
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