7 Major Themes in Human Relations

1. Communications- I feel like I practice good communication skills with people in general. More specifically, recognizing that “communication is the human connection” (Reece, Brandt, Effective Human Relations, 17) it my effective communication skills are very positively correlated with how many healthy relationships I have in my life. (I.E.- Relationships with my friends, family, children, partner, school intructors, student peers, etc…)

2. Self-awareness- I think that I have a solid understanding of my self-awareness. Being aware of my weaknesses and strengths and making decisions on which “battles” are worth fighting for when having difficulty communicating with people (whether it be my ex-wife or my children).

3. Self-acceptance- I didn’t journal any previous experiences regarding past attempts to overcome obstacles with the intentions of reaching goals at former places of employment or volunteer organizations. I believe I have a good foundation with my self-acceptance and it has shown me how to be more tolerant, cope with change and work in group more successfully. Some of these jobs included the US Army and working with South Minneapolis Neighborhood Organizations who wished to oppose city and state legislation that negatively affected their communities.


4. Motivation- In my relationships I am frequently reviewing “where we are at” and “what I could do” to make things better, or keep them as they are. This would be an example of the motivation theme and how it key to making the best of my interpersonal relationships with friends, family, and peers.

5. Trust- In my experience with my step-son Sol, I can see how trust plays an integral role with how we can overcome the stress of disappointment. Also, by building trust with him, it enables me to support him in learning how to make good and healthy decisions about hygiene, homework, dietary choices, and social skills.


6. Self-disclosure- I did not journal about my previous work experiences, but self-disclosure is an important key for me because I have a criminal record. I’ve always made a point to bring this up at all of my interviews, and explain what the crimes where, when they committed and pointed out my commitment to distance myself from the activities of a young kid to show that I am a now a responsible parent. This has always worked in my favor, as opposed to not bringing it up at the interview and then having to go over it after a thorough background check. Often times, the later-way results in immediate disqualification from the job I was interviewing for.

7. Conflict Resolution- Although I avoid confrontation more than I probably should, it’s not always possible. I find that I have the ability to step into the role of mediator when my step-son may have an argument or problem communicating with his mom (my partner).